Clearing the Air: The Reality of my Work and Finances

+JMJ+ I hesitated to write this post as it’s not in my usual realm of things. However, over the years, I’ve been quite surprised to receive messages questioning the supposed “loads of money” I make from my work—both my own story and the stories of others. While I could easily ignore these comments and my finances are no one’s business, I have seen other people like me attacked for this same issue. Some people have a problem with me making any money from my story and personal experiences at all. Others claim I am using my “apparent” abuse to make money.

So, for those who are apparently deeply concerned, let’s break it down and explore the reality of my work.

I Don’t Profit Much Financially From My Work

Let’s go point by point.

My Website and Social Media

You’re here on my website—designed, paid for, and maintained entirely by me. No sponsors, no outside funding. Every expense comes out of my own pocket. As for social media? I don’t make a dime from it.

This is why I simply ask that people credit my work instead of copying and pasting it as their own. It’s a small thing. Yet, some have complained that I even mention it, calling it selfish. But acknowledging the work someone has put time and effort into is about basic decency and respect.

I also occasionally write book reviews. Most often, I do get a free copy of the book for sharing my review. That’s it.

My Role as Vice President of TentMakers of Louisiana

Yes, it’s a fancy title, but it’s a volunteer position. I’m honored to serve in this role and wish I could do even more.

My Advice from a Survivor Blog with the Ruth Institute

I am incredibly grateful for this opportunity that allows me to work from home while taking care of my children. It’s a freelance blogging job, and I make my own hours. The income helps a little, but it’s not much. It usually covers a small portion of our grocery bill (we are a family of 7), and that’s about it.

My Book

Yes, I was paid for my book. Authors typically receive an advance and a final payment. After that, royalties only come in once a certain number of copies are sold. My book was released during COVID and also around the same time as some other big titles. I was pregnant with our fourth child, struggling with health issues, and dealing with some personal losses. I wasn’t able to invest as much time and energy into the launch as I had hoped. Therefore, sales have not been nearly as successful as I had hoped.

At one point, a few of my followers generously donated some money so I could purchase copies of my book and distribute them. I was deeply grateful for this. I’ve been able to gift many people with copies free of charge, and I still keep some on hand to share when the opportunity arises. Occasionally, I’ll even leave a book in a random place, praying it finds the right person. I know I don’t have to do this. It’s something I felt called to do.

I have occasionally sold signed copies (a handful) of my book. Since I had to buy them in the first place, even with my author’s discount I’m not making much of a profit.

Healing Hearts Articles on My Blog

I have shared a few stories from others on my blog—stories of pain, healing, and faith. No, I do not make money from these posts, and I wish I could compensate those who share their experiences. They’ve chosen to tell their stories on my platform, and I’m incredibly grateful for their trust.

Freelance Writing and Speaking

Occasionally, I’ve been paid for articles I’ve written for reputable Catholic newspapers—probably four or five pieces in total over the last 15 years. I don’t get paid for interviews. I haven’t done many speaking engagements, but I have been compensated for only one of them.

The Truth About This Work

You don’t go into this field for the money. It’s a ministry. In reality, I probably spend more on it than I make. There are website fees, technology costs, and, of course, the hours of time and energy spent writing, and supporting others. You might spend hours and hours writing an article or book submission only to be rejected. It’s a humbling line of work that’s for sure!

Like many families, my family has real financial concerns. Our car is on its last legs (or I suppose I should say wheels), we will be needing a new roof, our deck needs work, and everyday expenses like groceries and home repairs add up quickly. We don’t live lavishly. Our house is cramped for a family of 7. No luxurious vacations, no big purchases just for fun. I typically buy second-hand clothes, get my hair done maybe once a year, don’t get my nails done or do spa days, and don’t have professional photo shoots. I paid to get one professional headshot a few years ago before my book was published.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining! This is just the reality of someone in my shoes. There are so many hard-working people out there who are in the same boat. We know what truly matters—serving God, our families, and our communities in whatever way God calls us.

To Those Who Accuse Me of Profiting

So, for those of you who feel it’s necessary to make strange accusations, jump to conclusions, or make claims that I made up some wild story about being abused in order to make money, I’m praying for you and hope you take some time to reconsider your thought process on this. I’m not exactly sure what you’re trying to gain. If it’s bitterness, I truly pray for you. If it’s misunderstanding, I hope this post clarifies things.

I stepped into this work to share a message of hope, and that remains my mission. There is nothing wrong with being paid for your work—especially when you’ve poured your time, experience, and expertise into it. Many people, even within the Catholic community, earn a living by using their skills, and there’s no shame in that. Compensation doesn’t diminish the heart behind the work; it simply enables people to continue doing what they’re called to do. Yet, I’ve noticed a belief among some Catholics that being paid for your work somehow makes it less godly. That notion is simply absurd.

Am I making loads of money? No. Am I profiting off hurting other people? That’s another hard no. With all due respect, please excuse me while I laugh.

Would I love to contribute more to my family’s finances? Of course. I’m always open to exploring new ways to earn or save a little extra. But at the end of the day, I do this particular work because I feel called to it. It’s just a small part of how God has used my story for good. Sacrificing profit for purpose certainly comes with its crosses as well as its joys.

That’s the reality. Nothing hidden, no secrets. Just me, doing what I can with what I’ve been given!

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For Those Who Have Asked How to Help

Over the last several years, I have also had incredibly kind people reach out, asking how they can support my work. Considering the topic at hand, I might as well cover this too.

First and foremost, I always ask for prayers. Prayer is the most valuable thing anyone can offer. Second, I encourage people to help others in need, whether that means supporting survivors or a struggling friend, or backing a good and holy priest.

If you do ever feel called to give in a more tangible way, donations to TentMakers of LA or the Ruth Institute are always appreciated, as they help fund important work. And as I mentioned earlier, a few generous followers have sent along financial gifts in the past, which I’ve been truly grateful for. If that’s something you feel called to do (I am only mentioning this because so many people have asked), I have Venmo and PayPal under my name.

In closing, thank you for being here! I am so grateful for all of you!